The Space Between the 2 Big Days
Minding the Gap Between Graduation Day & Your First Work Day
As I scroll through social media, watching friends and former classmates gear up for another semester back in Tallahassee, Florida, nostalgia washes over me. For the first time since starting school, I won’t be returning to classes this fall. This change feels both familiar and unsettling.
A New Chapter
This fall marks the beginning of a new chapter in my life. I’m grappling with the concept of post-graduation depression while also growing my journalism and creative skills during my internship. As I await my “second big day”—the day I step into a job in my field—I know there’s much to face, fear, and learn.
Reflecting on My Journey
Just over two years ago, I was preparing to transition to the university of my dreams, Florida A&M University, fulfilling a family legacy. The excitement of transferring after earning my associate’s degree in 2021 was palpable. The fall of 2022 brought new responsibilities, living alone for the first time, managing bills, and enjoying newfound freedom.
The Shift to Post-Graduation Life
Now, in fall 2024, I face another level of freedom. No longer am I preparing for school or worrying about finding a job to support my studies; instead, I’m seeking a role that will sustain me after graduation. The first big day — graduation — has passed, and I’m still waiting for the second.
While I had imagined stepping into a job focused on internal communications or public relations, my path has not unfolded as I expected. I resonated deeply with Rochaun Meadows-Fernandez’s reflections on post-grad depression and her desire to make a difference. I had plans — getting an offer letter, moving to New York, and building my career in journalism — but reality took a different turn.
Facing Setbacks
In late April, as graduation approached, I was in the running for a position at a well-known financial institution as a communications analyst. After several interviews, I was met with radio silence. A week before graduation, I received an “unfortunate” call: no offer. This experience taught me that sometimes, things don’t go according to plan, but it’s essential to stay open to new opportunities.
The Job Search Journey
Since then, I’ve applied to innumerable jobs. Post-grad life is a rollercoaster of researching companies, tailoring resumes, interviewing, and occasionally getting ghosted. The job market today is vastly different from previous years, but persistence is key.
Coping with Post-Graduation Anxiety
Adjusting to post-graduation life can be daunting, and it’s easy to fall into a funk. Here are some tips to combat post-grad anxiety, inspired by Tennessee Tech:
Take a deep breath and reflect on your accomplishments.
Avoid comparing yourself to others.
Invest in your passions.
Start a new hobby outside your comfort zone.
Surround yourself with friends.
Focus on the present.
Don’t sweat the small stuff.
Prioritize your mental and physical health.
Check something off your bucket list.
Trust the journey.
Navigating Life After College
Post-grad life varies for everyone, but common experiences include job applications, networking, and adjusting to new environments, especially if you’ve relocated, which can be challenging. I faced this transition when I moved away from my college town, embracing the fear and excitement of new possibilities.
The Space Between Big Days
The gap between graduation day and your first job is a time to learn how to “adult” independently. College provided a sense of community; now, you may find yourself navigating new challenges alone. You can choose to let this time define you positively or negatively—what will you choose?
Reflections on Growth
I’ve learned that while this journey may not always be enjoyable, it is essential. Mental health during this transition can be complex; feelings of doubt and fear are normal. According to Healthline, 8.4% of adults over 18 experienced a major depressive episode during their post-graduation transition in 2020.
Building a Support System
To stay mentally healthy, I focus on my career goals, nurture my passions, and connect with my network. Surrounding yourself with supportive connections — personal or professional — is vital for growth.
Acknowledging Imposter Syndrome
As I transition from college to a professional career, I acknowledge feelings of imposter syndrome. This phenomenon, characterized by self-doubt and anxiety, can affect high achievers. It’s important to recognize your worth and not let fear hold you back.
The Journey Ahead
While waiting for your “second big day,” remember that your current environment does not define your self-worth. Stay positive and focus on your journey. It’s crucial to be patient and not settle for less than what you deserve.
Conclusion
I’m still on the journey to my “second big day,” confident that a salaried position in my field is on the horizon. For those graduating soon or navigating their post-grad experience, know that you’re not alone. Keep striving toward your goals and maintain your passion for your field.
Remember: Your attitudes and actions today can pave the way for a brighter future.
Disclaimer: This blog is not meant as professional advice or counseling. If you are in emotional distress or experiencing thoughts of harm to yourself or others, help is available 24/7:
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