Loved Ones May Leave, Love Remains

Sometimes loved ones appear to leave us by choice, either ours or theirs; or they leave when it is time for them to leave.

They either leave to a place in this state of being called earth where it is possible to see them again, or they make a transition to a state of being where seeing them physically is now not possible.

Choice or time, physical or not, all forms of leaving have a few things in common and one Truth that underlies it all; although loved ones may leave Love does not, which means we are never alone, or abandoned, or lost, or unloved.

Our emotions may tell us otherwise. Besides missing them we often experience regrets. We think “I could have done more,” or we ask, “What did I do wrong?” These thoughts can be helpful, but only if we treat them as a learning experience and not as guilt producers.

Facing what we could have done better or differently is the same as becoming skilled at anything by observing what we have done and practicing doing it even better the next time. If an athlete stays in the pain and guilt of not doing well longer than necessary to correct the action, then the cycle of not doing well continues.

This is true in all the walks of our life. We are becoming skilled at living and loving, and as we learn from what we do and move towards a higher understanding of perfecting that skill we don’t allow guilt to reside within us. Instead we practice expanding our life more profoundly into love.

By applying wettable sulfur to the moss and the grass on our hill I was providing an environment where moss could thrive, and the grass and weeds would not. This same idea can be applied to our relationships.

When we provide the environment that we wish to live in, then others will find comfort there or they won’t. This doesn’t make one good, or one bad. Although the relationship may make a transition to a different form, Love remains and we will experience that higher Love if we don’t allow regret or guilt or fear or anger to take control within our thinking.

In 1 Corinthians 13 we read that charity never fails. What is this charity, or Love, that Paul is talking about? It can’t be human love because it does often fail. It must be the omnipotent Love that is ever present.

As we choose to practice a higher awareness of omnipresent Love and become more skilled at letting go of the small worldview of how things are and to yielding to the Divine’s direction, we are providing an environment for others to also experience the Love that never fails.

Those that are traveling that same road as us at this time may walk with us. Those that are traveling a different road at this time may not. But, Love has never left us or them.

The other, seemingly more permanent, form of leaving is the transition we call death. This can feel harder to deal with because we know we won’t bump into our loved ones somewhere in our life, and we can’t call them on the phone, visit them in person, or even send them an email.

And yet, we know there is no death. We know this because we know that the infinite intelligence that we know as the Divine or God is Life Itself. We know this Life to be omnipresent and omniscient. We know that there is no beginning and no ending.

Sometimes this is easy to forget because we are so used to celebrating the seeming beginning of life known as birth and mourning the seeming ending called death. But, neither is real. Both are a marking of time born within a perception that we have adopted as our own, but is not the Truth of Life.

Sometimes we are witnesses to that passage between the awareness of the life that we live in now, and a new awareness of life that those who are making a transition experience. This is always evidence for us that Life continues and Love remains, and we can rejoice and find comfort and peace in that awareness.

At the end of that same verse in Corinthians Paul says, “For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.”

As we experience more of “knowing as we are known” we will experience less of the sense of loss at what only appears as a leaving and more of the joy of knowing that there is no loss, nor leaving, there is only omnipresent Love Loving Itself seen as Life.